Why I Love Every Crazy Strand of My Curly Hair
Okay, maybe I don’t love everything (hello, humidity??) about my curly hair, but pretty damn close.
With my shocking red, curly hair complete with my signature blond (okay… gray) chunk poking out front, I am an easily recognizable person. I’ve often joked that there’s no way I could ever get away with anything unscrupulous in our town because I’m just too easy to spot. On a recent business trip, one of my clients even admitted that I was the easiest person to spot in the airport because of my hair. “I just looked around til I saw your hair!”
What’s with that Blonde Chunk?
I never put the blonde there to stand out.. I honestly did it because that part of my hair had gone so grey that I finally said “screw it – let’s make it work to my advantage”. I love it, people notice it, and anytime I’m at an event meeting people in person for the first time, they always say “I knew who you were just by your hair”. The one time that I actually colored the blonde back to the same red, I swear people were writing to the complaint department about it. Alright, that’s a stretch because if you know me there IS no complaint department but it was the one and only time that I ever did it and would never consider it again.
I haven’t always loved my curly hair. As a child of the 80’s when everyone else was getting perms, I was pleading with the woman who cut my hair to do the same to mine. I don’t know where she is now, but I raise my glass to you for never, ever, listening to me on that one. But I had NO clue how to take care of my hair and the end result was pretty much the same as the frizzy perms my friends were sporting. Moving into my 20’s, I still looked the same and it wasn’t until I was living in Vail that a hairdresser finally had an intervention with me and my curls. He laid out the deadly sins of getting your curly hair to work against you and not FOR you. My life was forever changed and I never looked back.
The 7 Deadly Sins of Curly Hair:
- Hairbrushes – Never, ever, ever use a hairbrush on curly hair. The only time a brush touches my hair is on the rare occasion that it’s been straightened out.
- Not Conditioning Enough – You can never over-condition curly hair.. sometimes I ONLY use conditioner when I clean my hair.
- Washing Your Hair Every Day – Washing strips away your hair’s natural oils so stop washing it every day… twice a week here, at most.
- Blow Drying Without a Diffuser – And I only blow dry when it’s the winter or if I have to be someplace in the summer before it has time to air dry.
- Cheaping Out On Hair Products – Girls.. good product that’s made FOR curly hair is a must. There are lots of salon frizz free styling products on the market so it is important to find one that works for you. I often swap haircare tips with my friends to help us test out any new products. Personally, I live and die by John Frieda’s Frizz Ease line. It’s affordable and has always done me right.
- Touching It – The less you touch it, the less it frizzes. This one’s really hard for me because I’ve been a hair twirler since I had hair. Ask my dad.
- Not Rocking Them – This one’s the most important because curly girls rule. So many women would kill to have curly hair and we have it naturally so rock those curls, ladies!! Can I get an Amen?
The Thing About Curly Haired Girls
This is the fun part. We’re fierce. I have met very few curly girls who weren’t strong individuals. I’m not saying that our straight haired sisters aren’t but there’s just something about girls whose hair runs wild. I came across this article from Marissa Meltzer today and it had me nodding along the whole time (and truth be told, the inspiration for writing this) but especially with her closing line:
“These aren’t mermaid waves. With curls, you’re a siren.”
I’m grateful for the day that I stopped fighting the curls that I have and embraced them fully. I love them and they suit my personality to a T. My curls are literally the crown to the person that I am. I am strong, fierce, and independent. There is nothing that I can’t do or at least give it my all. Throw in the red hair and now you can add sassy and a force to be reckoned to the above. You can’t tame a curly girl and you sure as hell can’t tame a curly haired red-head girl. Many have tried, all have failed.
But something else I am is fiercely loyal, passionate about things I believe in, witty and I don’t back down from a fight. You’ll always know where you stand with me – I don’t mince words. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. Somedays my filter is in place but most often, not and I’m okay with that. Too many women are afraid to speak their minds and stand up for themselves. There used to be a time when I would shake in my boots telling people exactly what was on my mind, but not so much anymore. If you’ve got no filter, you just say it.. no time to notice the shaking. Has it gotten me into hot water? Oh boy howdy has it. But you know what? I’m still alive to tell the story.
So you curly girls hiding behind your keratin, blown out, and flat ironed ‘dos – I beg you to stop. Grab your deep conditioner, styling balm, FrizzEase, and wide toothed comb and let your curly girl out. I promise you that you won’t be sorry you did. But if you still want to hide her, that’s okay. I’ll be the memorable one in the middle of the room standing out in a crowd.
Just how I like it.