Losing a Friend on Twitter

I’m in a little bit of shock right now. I just found out that one of my favorite Twitter friends, Vickie Gammas World(aka @Gammasworld and @Data_Diva) passed away.

Six months ago.

How did I miss this? We didn’t swap tweets every day but pretty frequently – especially when one of our favorite shows was on. We would tweet-ument our opinions on the show as it was happening. It was fun. She was great and we enjoyed each other.

I realized a few days ago that I hadn’t seen her pop up in my stream, so I tweeted:

I miss @gammasworld.. where has she been?

Vickie Young

And then I went to look at her profile and twitter stream.

Her stream is still active but it’s all push tweets of her daily gazette (which is an automated compilation of tweets).. I kept scrolling down and down. It went on and on. My heart started to sink. This is a woman who tweeted A LOT. More than me. Something wasn’t right. The last tweet I could find was in May when apparently she went into the hospital for pneumonia.

Then, I found a tweet from her daughter that said “if you have any questions about my mom, please let me know” so I went to her daughter’s Twitter stream. And scrolled and scrolled. And there it was. In the middle of May.

A tweet that was clearly one of mourning. My heart hurts for Vicki, her daughter and her family. It also hurts for me and all the others that were her circle of friends on Twitter.

Say what you will about social media – that the relationships aren’t “real” but they are. They may be a different version of your real, but they are. Bantering back and forth with people, there are ones that you get close to. You may never meet them in real life but you know each other nonetheless. If you’re active on Twitter, that’s where you go first to share your news, vent about a bad day or something the kids do. Some of the best people I know, I’ve met on Twitter. I’ve been fortunate to meet a few in person and even more fortunate to become friends with them on-going. Twitter is why I started the BWTs (Broads Who Tweet) – so that we could share our lives both on and off-line.

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Vicki was a BWT even though she never got to come to a meetup. I regret that she and I never got to meet in person – in excusable in the fact that we lived in the same town.

One of the good ones is gone and there’s a lump in my throat over someone who I never met in person.

And I’m okay with that because I didn’t have to meet her in person to know that we were friends.

Rest in peace, Vicki. I hope the TV that you’re watching now is full of your favorite shows and no commercials.


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July 2, 2013 at 10:04 am

Oh, man. That is really sad. It’s funny how IRL and online relationships overlap and don’t. However, it doesn’t make it any less real or painful that you are feeling the loss of people with whom you felt connected. So sorry. xox
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November 26, 2012 at 9:19 pm

Sorry for your loss. Online friendships can be just as real as those made offline.
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November 16, 2012 at 6:32 pm

that is really sad. and for you to just be curious and find out that way. sorry.

you’re so right about online relationships–sometimes they are just as strong as real-life bonds. i actually met my husband in the comments section of a blog.

November 12, 2012 at 10:18 pm

That seriously sucks..for real. I’ve seen a lot of people pass who are either bloggers or on Twitter. It just seems surreal to see their tweets but to know their not coming back. I try to live everyday to the fullest and not to worry about anything else…# sigh

    November 12, 2012 at 10:37 pm

    It is surreal.. like I said, when I saw the long string of auto-tweets from her, I knew something wasn’t right. I just wish it hadn’t been the worse case scenario. We should all embrace our online AND offline friends and remember that our time here is borrowed. Thanks for the comment πŸ™‚
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November 11, 2012 at 6:28 am

Oh my gosh, that is so sad! I’m so sorry Kristen.
You are right about social media. I have to say some of my closest friends are people I have met through social media, from pregnancy message boards, to BlogHer, and beyond. Some I have met, some I have not, but I hope to! (A NC meetup may be in order for me someday!)
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    November 12, 2012 at 10:35 pm

    You need to get to NC!! It’s warmer here.. come snow bird πŸ™‚ My Hootsuite is your Hootsuite! I think the relationships can develop more purely because we ARE more apt to say what we think and we’re not afraid of external influences such as status, image, etc.
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November 10, 2012 at 7:32 am

Oh, that’s sad. And a reminder to me to pay a little more attention because I could easily miss something like this. I’m sorry you lost your friend.
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November 9, 2012 at 11:35 pm

I was wondering about her just the other day myself… and now I totally feel like crap that I so busy doing things that were so not as important as paying attention.

I remember when she went into the hospital for heart issues – and offered to have my mom (who lives nearby) bring her some things to read… and we talked about finding a better place to work.

I feel awful – and sad.

    November 9, 2012 at 11:44 pm

    I know, Tammy… that’s how I feel too. The unfortunate thing about Twitter and all social media is that there is so much info in front of us that it doesn’t take a lot to get distracted and suddenly, you realize it’s been weeks or, in this case, since you’ve chatted with someone. She was such a great lady and like you, I feel awful and sad that it took this long for it to come up on my radar. But I’m grateful that it did tonight.

November 9, 2012 at 10:57 pm

My heart hurts πŸ™ There were so many shows we “watched” together. I feel even worse that it took me so long to pick up on the absence of her tweets.
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November 9, 2012 at 10:49 pm

I’m so very sorry to hear this! I occasionally saw you two having a twitter convo. πŸ™

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