Steubenville Rapists Found Guilty, But are They Sorry?

The Steubenville rapists got off easy

Unless you’ve been living under a rock the past few weeks, you’ve heard of the rape case in Steubenville, Ohio. If you haven’t heard of it, let me recap it for you.

The victim didn’t say no. She wasn’t even coherent enough to say no, but regardless, she was raped no means no steubenville and cnnby a couple of the guys from the football team. And the act was caught on video. And passed around on social media. A lot.

She was 15, at a party and yes, she had too much to drink (or something else) and she was out cold. Then the hell started happening to this girl that resulted in her being victimized. Several times. And no one stopped it.

Honestly, that’s all you really need to know.

There are so many things that I could say about this event.. the arrogant and pompous assholes that bragged about what they did. The poverty-stricken, mill town that idolizes the high school football athletes. The use of social media to spread the “event”. The people who stood by, watched it happen and DID NOTHING TO HELP THE GIRL.

But this post? No.. this post I’m going to rage discuss my ire at CNN and these reporters on their “reporting”. I was stunned at the way that CNN reporter Poppy Harlow reported from the court room. She makes statements like “their lives were full of such potential” “their lives will never be the same”. Rapist, Ma’lik Richmond said, “My life is over – no one is going to want me now”. Don’t believe me? Watch:

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Wow.

Can I say “who cares?”?

What about the victim? Do you think her life is going to “ever be the same”? These guys will only serve 1-2 years in juvie. Do you think that she’ll live with this far longer than these scumbags? The ONLY good thing to come out of this verdict was the fact that these two will walk thru life with the title “sex offender” emblazoned upon their records forever. Their own version of the Scarlet Letter.

I have so many problems with this situation I don’t even know where to start. Let me publicly address one thing, at least. These guys were high school football players who were idolized. I’m sorry, Steubenville that you lives suck so bad that you resort to worshipping 17-year-old sub par football players, but until you realize that they’re just figments of your warped lives, you’ll never be better than you are now. I also feel pretty certain that this is not the first time this has happened in your town and by your players but this time they were dumb enough, cocky enough or both to get busted.

Hey Jocks – here’s a secret: if you put it on the Interwebz, the Interwebz is gonna bust you. Every single fricking time. People don’t like egomaniacs.

Your junk may be big, but the Interwebz is bigger.

But here’s another big issue that I have… the people that stood around and videoed this event happening.

Steubenville and America.. how do you raise your kids to do this? Did you forget the lesson of “if you see someone who needs help, help them”?? Are our kids so demoralized that they would rather get a great piece of video than help a girl who is UNCONSCIOUS and being raped?

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I’m disgusted and fired up obviously. I’m disgusted at CNN and the person who told the story (can’t even call her a reporter). I’m disgusted at the people who watched this happen and did nothing to help this child. As a society, we have to stop idolizing people who play sports and other entertainers who don’t stand up to the responsibilities they have with those jobs. We have to put more emphasis on careers that mean something such as teachers, nurses and others who help. We have to start demanding that our media be more than “pretty little bleach blondes who come on at 5:00” as Don Henley would say.

We have to start speaking up for our victims instead of letting the douchebags of society take over and make what they do “okay”.

No means no. In any language. In any phrase. And if – like this young girl – they can’t speak it, then you should assume the answer is no.

Because no matter how great you think you are, you’re not. And no one wants what you think you have.

Trust me.

 

 

 

Comments

March 25, 2013 at 9:17 am

I have been wanting to write something very similar to this. Those two boys are lucky that’s all they got. In my opinion they should have been tried as adults. This was such an opportunity to make a statement about what is put out there on social media ,and that publicizing a crime as it’s taking place will not be tolerated. Especially such a heinous one and one that’s being put out there by the perpetrators. Every single person that retweeted, shared, and commented back should be held accountable.
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    March 25, 2013 at 9:40 am

    I think what pains me most is that it went on repeatedly, all night long and NO ONE DID A THING. Yes.. every person that witnessed what happened has blood on their hands. And did you see that it happened AGAIN last week in CT??



March 19, 2013 at 9:47 pm

Amen.
I was LIVID when the news coverage seemed to be all about showing the rapist crying and we were supposed to feel..what? SAD FOR THEM? Um, no. Not even close. You want to know how to avoid going to prison and ruining your life? DON’T RAPE SOMEONE.

Ashley and I spent 2 hours on the phone ranting about so many things surrounding this case. There are so many things so wrong, it’s hard to know where to begin. –Lisa
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    March 19, 2013 at 10:04 pm

    You’re right.. every time I start talking about this, I come up with a “and another thing!”. It’s hard, hard to be a parent and a human and watch this one. And the fact that it was a female reporter? OhMahGawd. She needs to have her sisterhood card revoked.



March 18, 2013 at 10:49 pm

Amen. I could have written this post and wish I had. I feel the same rage and and am incredulous that these horrifying events unfolded one after another the way they did. Thank you for putting our collective rage into powerful words and adding a sane voice to this tragedy. Well done.
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    March 19, 2013 at 7:35 am

    It makes me sick to my stomach to see the texts, tweets and photos that were sent around that night. One of my friends told me late last night that 2 of the girls that go to the school had been arrested for threatening the victim. ARE YOU JOKING? I’m not sure how the family could stay. I would have to move in order to give my daughter something resembling a fresh start.
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March 18, 2013 at 3:48 pm

I can’t agree more with every point you made on this post. Every. Heartbreaking. Point.

I don’t get how everybody still laments the opportunities lost for these boys. Yes, I believe in redemption and I believe in second chances. And I hope they learn from what they did. I hope they never repeat it and honestly learn that what they did isn’t about their career in sports.

But they needed to be punished for what they did. And to see so many people excuse their behavior and lament their losses versus to take into account what this has done for the victim is beyond belief.
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    March 19, 2013 at 7:33 am

    Instead of wringing your hands, they should be turned up to the sky saying “oh well. you screwed up big time and it’s time to pay your dues”. I’m just sick and tired of our society’s obsession with athletes and how they’re the second coming of Christ. I’m sure they regret BIG TIME what they did but I’m not sure they regret it for the reasons they should.
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Liz Terek
March 18, 2013 at 11:27 am

Awesome! Thank you for standing up & standing by your convictions!
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Jen Ertl
March 18, 2013 at 11:08 am

Amen a hundred times! Thank you for putting it into words. The entire situation was horrifying for the reasons you clearly outlined. But the media is the criminal here as well. With great power, the media has a great responsibility to do it right, and they failed miserably in this instance.



March 18, 2013 at 11:06 am

It still makes me hot when I think about it. What absolutely awful reporting. And from a woman no less. I can’t imagine that poor girl having to hear them lament over how “ruined” these a-holes lives are.
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March 18, 2013 at 10:09 am

AMEN KRISTEN!!!! Every single point you made just fired me up even more!! What has our society come to? This poor innocent 15 year old’s life is forever changed and scarred… It makes me absolutely sick to my stomach to think of the ones who actually videotaped this tragic incident. They should all to go prison. Every single one of the dejected and twisted souls who were a part of this entire process of ruining this victim’s life. And that CNN report? Sick.
Thank you for sharing your strong and true voice on this horrific event.
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March 18, 2013 at 10:05 am

No. No. No.

I am disgusted and appalled that this was CNN’s “breaking news,” and am sickened that the real victim in this case wasn’t even mentioned. Two young men made a series of bad decisions that will have lasting consequences, but most of those consequences will be felt by the young woman victimized, demoralized and publicly paraded by their actions.

Shame on you, CNN, for missing the real news, and further sensationalizing the overblown, unnecessary, and excessive attention we give to athletes.

Wake up and grow up, America, and take responsibility for your actions. Teach your children to respect others, to lend a helping hand, to fight FOR the underdog, and to be brave even when you’re not. Model the behavior you expect to see in others, and stop complaining when things don’t go your way because you think you’re entitled to something you haven’t earned.

Ugh. Maybe I need to write my own blog post.
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