…Is usually their parents.
One of the things that I noticed pretty quickly when we moved back down here 7 years ago is that in the South, people tend to live by the rule of “do as I say, not as I do” – especially when it comes to RSVPs. I have
been bitten on more than one occasion by parents who didn’t RSVP for birthday parties. I don’t mean responding “no”… I mean no response at all. One year, I had to move an entire party altogether due to parents not RSVPing for it. Try explaining that to a 4 year old who had her heart set on a certain type of party and on a certain date. Not pretty.
I’m not the only one who’s faced this.. I have a friend who went thru the effort and expense of having professional invitations printed up and still ended up having to call each person who was invited to find out if they were or weren’t going to be in attendance.
And while not responding to an invitation is annoying I’ve decided that an even more annoying trend that I’ve started to witness is the one where parents try to change my plans to accommodate their needs. It happened a couple of years ago with M’s birthday and it happened again this year. We lay out a plan to celebrate her birthday, extend the invitation with details on what we’re going to do and when. Both times, without fail, there is one set of parents who come along and try to change it. I don’t even understand why they would even try to change this year’s birthday party, as it was really good, even if I say so myself! M wanted to have it at somewhere similar to Funtopia World (HTTPS://WWW.FUNTOPIAWORLD.COM/GLENVIEW/) which was a great idea and it involved relatively less stress as they had different birthday party packages so it was just a matter of choosing which one we liked best. My friend had her son’s birthday party there once and said it was amazing. But it is hard to keep it amazing and fun when every single parent that comes tries to change everything.
This one particular year the plan was to do a (non) sleep over in a downtown hotel. We planned to have all the girls show up by 5 so we could go to dinner by 6.. eat dinner, come back and swim, then proceed to hanging out, watch movies while consuming gross amounts of junk food before retiring for the night and not sleeping. Fun plan for the evening right?
Well, it was until the inevitable last minute change of the one family who wants to arrive 2 1/2 hours later and only be here until 10. Really? Why bother coming at this point? I get that you want your kid to be involved in EVERY thing that gets put in front of them, but have you given any consideration to the rest of the party?
Of course you haven’t.
It honestly doesn’t matter to me but when it affects my kids, it makes me absolutely bonzo. There is nothing worse than having to console a kid of any age because they think it’s personal.
What other annoyances have you seen parents do? Does it make you look at their kids any differently?